It’s been over 10 years since we first dipped our toes into the hotwife lifestyle. What started as fantasy has become something much deeper, an experience we share, enjoy, and continue to grow through. I recently asked my wife some honest questions about how she feels now, after a decade of exploration, adventure, and more than a few unforgettable nights.

It’s easy to focus on the sex when people hear we’re in the hotwife lifestyle. I get it, it’s provocative. My wife sleeps with other men. It raises eyebrows, fuels fantasies, and probably leads to a few confused expressions. But what most people don’t see, and what I’ve come to love the most, is how this lifestyle has helped her bloom into the most confident, sexy, empowered version of herself.

I always push Boundaries. Keeley could’ve easily shut this down. She could’ve said, “This is too much,” or “Why do you want to share me?” But she never has. Instead, she made me feel like my hunger for more wasn’t something to be ashamed of, but something to celebrate together.

Even after ten years in the hotwife lifestyle, some nights still hit different. Some nights stir up a nervous energy between us that feels brand new, like we’re crossing a fresh line even after a decade of pushing boundaries together. This night was one of those.

The most common question we see when people ask about the lifestyle is “But how do you handle the trust? Doesn’t it cause problems?”

The short answer: No, not when you build it the right way.

She told me how much she enjoyed being with him. He was extremely dominant and well-endowed—two things we hadn’t really come across before. Her pleasure was obvious, and I was genuinely happy for her.

At home I wondered if they were getting along and what was happening, I was clock watching like mad waiting for a message to arrive. It came and she said they were heading to the bedroom. All the usually feelings and thoughts washed over me as I imagined what was happening.

20minutes passed before another message came through. “Heading upstairs, speak soon x”

To my surprise, that very night, she was chatting with a guy. We knew from his profile that he was local, and it turns out he was only a short walk away from our house.